What if you had a magic wand with which you could just tap away negative feelings?

Wouldn’t that be really wonderful? How would you use it? Would you put it in a drawer and save if for a rainy day, when your emotions are REALLY bad, or would you just take it out at every opportunity and use it? Let’s say, it never wears out and it doesn’t get exhausted. It always works and it is very handy and convenient to use, all you’d need would be a little bit of time and concentration.

Sounds pretty much like Harry Potter to you? Well, in a way it is. But all of you who really read the Harry Potter-books know that as soon as he didn’t have his magic wand with him, his special powers weren’t available. So he really had to take care to have it in his pocket all the time.

Which makes it a little bit inconvenient, after all, it is a relatively long thing, it shouldn’t be bent and it doesn’t easily fit into your pants pocket. As a woman, you could pack it into your handbag, but really, that’s a nuisance, too, with all the stuff you already have to drag around with you.

So isn’t it great to know that we all practically have such a magic wand, and all you need to do is to remember it at the times you need it? How good does that sound? No special pocket necessary, just a reminder now and then, that there is no need in the world to endure any negative emotion for longer as you decide for yourself.

If you are like most people, when a situation triggers a negative response, the reaction is not really governed by your adult Self, by the grown-up person you are with all the experience you have gathered over the years of your life. Instead, very often, the reaction is the same as it was when you were a child and a comparable situation came up.

Let’s say, someone is bossing you around. As your grown up Self, you could easily come up with a number of arguments why this is not the right way to interact with you. You could stay calm and tell the other person that you would prefer a different tone if they want your company any longer. But normally, it doesn’t come to this. None of the wonderful remarks you could make are available to you in this moment, and you feel exactly as you felt when you were 5 and your big brother bossed you around.

And your reactions are governed by this 5 year old. They are not calm and poised, they are ineffective and annoying to you and you don’t even know why it is that you react in this way.

The reason is that this pattern was already established long ago and it never really was resolved. So, very often, when we are in a difficult situation, we don’t come up with the elegant reactions, we are “stuck” in these ineffective patterns. How often did it happen to you that you came out of a discussion with someone and after the fact you thought “I should have said this or that”? More often than not, I guess. It happens all the time.

But with our magic wand, we can work on these patterns when the situation is not present. And we can change the pattern, and when we do that, the odds are good that the situation will not come up again. Since everything that happens to us is in a way responding to what is going on in us, as soon as we have deactivated the patterns, the corresponding situation doesn’t come up anymore.

With your built-in magic wand, you can go back to this situation in your mind’s eye and you can zap exactly the things that made you react as you did and collapse them in the privacy of your home.

I guess you know already what the magic wand is I’m talking about? Right, it is EFT, a very simple and easy to learn method to overcome all kinds of negative emotions. As you might already know, you don’t need any equipment in order to use it, you can even do it in public, even though it might look a little bit strange and I would be careful with tapping my temples in the wrong environment, it could be considered offensive by the wrong people.

Many people who are using EFT regularly have noticed that especially with these situations that are caused by deeply engraved patterns which have their roots in early childhood years, the idea of actually using EFT on them doesn’t come naturally. We have to remind ourselves that we have this option, since this is a coping strategy that we acquired later in our life and it is not connected with a built-in link to this situation.

So, my tip would be, whenever something happens that has made you feel bad and helpless, take the time, after you have calmed down, and ask yourself, “If I had a magic wand, what would I do?”. And don’t beat up on yourselves that you didn’t think about it easier or that the opportunity is now over, since no harm is done, you can easily go back to the situation in your mind’s eye and tap on every nuance of it that doesn’t feel good to you.

A well-meant word of advice though: some things should better not be explored on your own. If you notice a strong reluctance to revisit a certain scene or strong negative emotion that you have a hard time dealing with, do yourself the favour and work with an experienced EFT expert, you will get much better and long-lasting results.

EFT is a masterful tool for any situation that doesn’t make you feel the way you would like to feel, and it can resolve a lot of inner tension, but regarding charged situations with strong negative emotions, it is even more powerful if it is applied by an expert, who knows how to get to the core of the problem.

P.S. While EFT has produced remarkable clinical results, it must still be considered to be in the experimental stage and thus practitioners and the public must take complete responsibility for their use of it. You agree to take full responsibility for your own physical health & use of EFT. Further, neither myself nor Gary Craig are licensed health professionals.

EFT is not intended to replace any relationship with a qualified health care professional and is certainly not intended as medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are under the care of any health professionals (or should be), we strongly encourage you to discuss modifications in your diet, lifestyle, exercise program, nutrition, or use of EFT with them prior to making any changes, and never discontinue or reduce prescription medications without consulting your doctor or pharmacist.